Wednesday 16 April 2014

Many Singaporeans’ parenting style not helping children succeed by JunTian

Many Singaporeans’ parenting style not helping children succeed
In an attempt to restructure the education, the MP have proposed taking away exams and streaming in some schools. However, this is only solving the superficial problem of the huge stress students are facing, but will not benefit our students in the long run. An examination-free education system would serve only to mask the inadequacies of the current generation of pupils, rather than help them to succeed. While some of the pressure they face is due to the existing system, the root problem actually lies with the quality of young people now.  Many Singaporean parents lead busy lives and spend little quality time with their children. Over time, this sends their children a message that they are not that important to their parents, and the bonding process is weakened. Children who feel unloved or second-best are often less able to cope with the stresses of life. Physical pain can help children learn how to harness wayward passions responsibly and constructively. Sadly, many Singaporean parents are discarding this mode of training their children. Without direct and consistent parental presence in the form of both tender loving and hard discipline, a child’s psyche can become unstable, and his/her thoughts misdirected. When pressure comes, the cracks show up easily. This is why many parents wish to do away with school examinations; they do not want to have the fruit of their unsuccessful parenting exposed.
Opinion: I feel that it is indeed true that taking away exams and test is not a good solution. While this definitely reduce loads of stress, it will not benefit our students at all in the long run. By asking to do away with examinations, parents are nurturing in their children a mentality that they can avoid anything unpleasant, and in the future when they are independent adults, they will not be able to cope with all the stress and problems that are unavoidable. Also, parents should also ensure that they spend adequate time with their children. During the right times, parents should not hesitate to be strict when disciplining their children. Only by doing these can parents produce children that are responsible and can handle problems in the future.

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